Differences and Disappointments

this is my fourth posting on this blog.

i thought about using numbers for each post but i'll probably do that later after i've used up the letters of the english alphabet. i have to think up or think of something to write about now everytime i do a posting. it's still going to be random. (I'm already wondering what titles to use for the letters Q, X and Z. Oh joy !)

i guess i should have started my first posting with Aspirations, as in what i am aiming for with this blog. (gee, aiming starts with the letter A too !)

anyway, its differences and disappointments for now, as in differences in attitudes, opinions, taste,etc. can lead to disappointments.

i was lying in bed last night and got to think about why we never can please everybody.
i wouldn't even think of trying - it's bound to be the most frustrating and futile (now i have probable titles for the letter F), and in some instances - hurtful, thing you could even consider doing. (yeah, i felt bad about something someone said. it wasn't WHAT was said but HOW it was said. and yes, i got over my bad feelings. you'll soon see how.)

we need approval. and if not everyone approves of how we do things or live our life, tough.
so be it. no use beating yourself up or the disapprovers.

the most i can do and will do, if i eventually prove myself wrong, is apologize and make things (or feelings) right, if i could.

that said, i'd like to share with whoever reads this, the words to a song i heard years ago, growing up, which is one of the things which i easily recall whenever i feel i have let someone down.

it's a song done by herb alpert, to me one of the best trumpet players. and as i remember, it was titled Polyanna. i haven't been able to find it in any of his records or CDs in the market or online. but i swear i am not making this up.

so here are some of the lines from the song and i hope you agree with me too that it's a good rebound to give anyone whose expectations of us we have failed to live up to.

Pollyanna

why should you be disappointed in me
i disagree with your point of view
i don't just exist in your life
i also exist in my life
and just like a tree, it belongs
i belong
you never would question a tree
whatever i do i'd be faithful to you
i have to be true to myself as well.

and it goes on except that i don't remember the rest of it.

the words summarize for me how i would like a relationship to work. we would always have our differences and disagreements. we could lessen our disappointments if we also remember that we also make mistakes and misjudgements. it doesn't have to be just with your significant other but also with your parents, siblings and friends.

Constipated (or another term for . . .)

No, I'm not constipated. not the the way the word is commonly used or understood.
the other meaning i have for it came up while my hairstylist and i were talking about some of the people she encounters in her business.

they go around with their noses up in the air. i said they must be "stuck up", unable to move __it when they're supposed to. so they have to hold their noses higher than the rest of us cause they have to smell their stuck up __ap. yes, she laughed at my insight.
and so i told her that it would be a good idea to use the word "constipated" for people who act like they were, even if they were just being their __itty selves.

heck, we're all the same - we all bleed when wounded, shed the same salty stuff when we cry.
but we have traits unique to each of us, we react differently to similar situations which prevent us from being robots.

so maybe it's just a "constipated" person's way of letting out (or lashing out at) some "injustice" thrust upon them. hey if you really get constipated, you'd feel a certain way too.

so there, next time you encounter a foul acting, foul mooded person, it's not about you but that person's way of reacting to some issue/s (you ?)

gotta go, gotta work on someone's issues.

Children as Teachers

Woke up this morning and among the first thoughts I had was about the things we can learn from children.



They don't have to be our children. And they don't have to be of a certain age.

But it's better if they are in their pre-school to primary levels. They have an unbiased view of things and their insights are fresh and new. After you think you have answered their "why" questions they sometimes would follow that up with their "why nots" or "why can'ts". Then you would have an interesting conversation if you either have or find the time.



They're not questioning authority or intelligence or opinion. They just want to know why and not why you think so. Some times you will have the anwers, sometimes you won't and sometimes will have to think hard to come up with an answer. It becomes a two way street as you also learn from them.



It becomes more interesting as children grow up into adulthood. The questions lessen as they begin to learn from other people as well as from other sources.



I'll leave it at this, for now - I'm still learning. Yeah, both my parents are still alive and I hope I'm still able to teach them a thing or two.



And, careful what you teach your children. If you're lucky, they would be looking after you in your old age.

The First Step

So, I have taken the first step - I've started my blog.
I can now post my day's thoughts and share it with those whom I just used to read
and possibly get their comments as well.

Why the blog title ?
A friend recently commented that I seemed to respond to her e-mails so fast and that made her call me "kidlat", the Tagalog term for lightning.
I told some friends and one of them started referring to me as "kidlat".

So, tonight as I was deciding on a name for my blog, it was what came to mind.
And here it is.

I'll be posting the random thoughts - nice, bad, dirty, cool, funny, sad, thought-provoking
which pop into my head as well as lines I may read or hear in the course of the day.